CLICK HERE FOR THOUSANDS OF FREE BLOGGER TEMPLATES »

Friday, May 16, 2008

HOW CAN PEOPLE BE SO HEARTLESS

REPOSTED FROM MEDUSA

Dee/DEEDLYNN/DEEDLYNN22

PATTI

Yesterday (April 14/08), I received information from a member of Kimkins about a 17-year-old girl who, in her first post, admitted she had an eating disorder.

In an effort to reach out to this young girl, I attempted to enlist the assistance of Kimkins members, Dee/DEEDLYNN/DEEDLYNN22, who has recently been posting on Low Carb Friends, and Patti, one of the current KK cover girls, to intervene.

Below is a copy of my e-mail to Patti:

"Medusa to patti
show details May 14 (1 day ago)

Patti, I have grave concerns regarding a member of KK and would like to pass on some info to you in the hopes that you may be willing to intervene.
Thanks.
Medusa

www.2medusa.com"


Not having Dee/DEEDLYNN/DEEDLYNN22's e-mail address, I left a comment on her blog and asked her to contact me. Here is the screen shot of my comment to her:



Dee quickly replied to my post with this:

"DeAnna XXX to me
show details May 14 (1 day ago)

Here is my email address. I'd be happy to help you if I can.

Thanks,
Dee"

I then forwarded the following e-mail to Dee:

"...There is a new member of Kimkins, XXX, who has a serious eating disorder. A
member of Kimkins copied XXX's post and sent it to me. Her KK username is XXX.
The text of her post is at the bottom of this e-mail.

I've been advised that no one at KK has responded to her posts, and I was wondering if you could perhaps contact her and suggest that she contact one of the following eating-disorder helplines:

Bulimia/Anorexia Self Help Hotline: 800-
227-4785
Eating Disorders Hotline: 800- 448-4663
Anorexia Nervosa and
Associate Disorders 847-831-3438
Youth Crisis Line: 800- HIT-HOME
Thursday's Child National Call Center for at Risk Youth: 800-USA-KIDS
Boys and girls Town National Hotline: 800- 448-3000
Kids Help Phone
(Canada): 800-668-6868
The Eating Distress Helpline (Ireland):011-44-2600366
Referrals to Eating Disorder specialists (US and Canada) 800-736-3739
The National Mental Health Association Information Center: 800-969-NMHA

The phone numbers above are from the blog Weighing the Facts, which is a wonderful resource blog for those who are suffering from bulimia, anorexia, and other eating disorders.

My blog, as well, has information on eating disorders (www.2medusa.com).

I'm hoping that, with encouragement, she will seek help.

Many thanks, Dee. I really appreciate any assistance you're able to give this girl. She is in serious trouble.

All the best,
Medusa

XXX's post on Kimkins:

"Alrighty then, I'm a mess-up.

I suppose it depends on how you look at it. I'm 17 years old, I am a Jr. at
Pepperdine University and I go there on a scholarship, I'm pre-medicine, I
love to read and write... and I have this tricky little thing called an eating disorder.

It's bothered me for a long, long time. I have screamed at God, I have screamed at my parents, I have screamed at myself. I have cut myself. I have contemplated suicide.

One day, I asked myself why it is better to commit suicide than to change my life. Even if changing my life was the most difficult thing imaginable, I do believe that I would be happier once I'd done it - so clearly, taking a difficult step towards happiness is far wiser than taking a selfish step towards oblivion. And so, here I am. For the millionth time, in one way or another.

But I love to write, so I thought - maybe a blog ill help. Where yes, I talk about how much I weigh today and how the elliptical felt on my gracilis muscle, but also about Ayn Rand's purpose behind discussing selfishness in The Fountainhead, and where we can discuss the implications behind bio-engineering, and where we can consider the incredible theories behind Newtonian physics and Nietzschean philosophy.

So that's what I'm asking - because, for my entire life, I have been overwhelmed by the realization that very few people that I'm friends with are really interested in
all the things I listed above. I'll be honest - I don't care about Jamie Lynn Spears. I don't. I don't care about 24 or CSI, but I deeply care about the starving people of North Korea and the importance of love in marriage.

So that's my first topic: love. My last boyfriend was completely in love with me. I don't say this in a vain way, but I know it was true. I broke up with him because I was not in love with him - and it broke his heart. And so now I have come to the realization that I don't want to even consider dating someone until I feel the possibility that he could become someone I could never live without. For me, this seems so unlikely that I don't think I'll ever get married - and here is why. When you read a great piece of literature, you fall in love with a multi-faceted thing which is greater than you are. Words on a page, in my opinion, truly can overcome reality. And so it is that I love this - this depth, this power, this beauty which not even the author could fully grasp - so much that I don't believe it is possible to love something which is tangible quite as much. The tangible cannot be as beautiful. The thing I love about literature is it wields a power greater than any one human being.

The only way I can see of falling in love with someone is if he joined me in that same love. But I have not met anyone who is like that yet. That is partly why I'm here - to assure myself that such people do exist. But here is my question - I am young and people here have more life experience: have you honestly met someone that you love so much that you cannot imagine life without them? Because that is what I want. I love my dad so much that I cannot begin to consider life without him - but I was born loving him that much. Have you actually MET someone who took this place of importance in your life?
-
XXX

P.S. I weigh 184 pounds. I'm 5'8''. I work out every day. haha I forgot that's why I'm here.

Okay, so....
I've definitely got some issues. I'm 17 years old and I'm a Jr. at Pepperdine University. When I was 12 I had anorexia and since then I have developed a pretty clean case of Binge Eating Disorder. (it does exist... it's not just made up). So, I\'m here to change that and change myself. I'll be honest - there is a boy I like and I think he could like me too. But we're off school for the summer and I want to become a different person.

However, I want this blog to be about more than that - I love philosophy, literature, science - really anything that makes you think. My favorite books would be The Catcher in the Rye, Atlas Shrugged or The Plague. My favorite movies - Scanner Darkly or Shawshank Re "


I then received this response from Patti:

"Patti Larsen to me May 14 (1 day ago)

Screw off. I'm a healthy woman making the right choices for myself who happens to eat three times a day, thank you very much. You should be ashamed.Thoughts are things. Make every thought count."

I immediately followed with this response to Patti:

"Medusa to Patti
show details 10:01 AM (33 minutes ago)
Patti, I was contacted by a member of Kimkins who is asking for help in assisting a very young girl who has admitted in her posts on Kimkins to having a very serious eating disorder.
My only purpose in writing you was to ask if you might reply to this young girl's post on Kimkins and direct her to some eating disorder helplines."


Then 30 minutes later, this arrived from Patti:

Patti Larsen to me
show details 10:31 AM (4 minutes ago)

I am not interested in your games. Not sure how you got my personal email, nor do I care, except that you must have a fake profile on Kimkins, which makes you dispicable. Just so you know, I've reported you to the Kimkins organizers. People like you blame the world for your problems when the only one who can really make a change is you.
I hope this ficticious girl finds her own path.
DO NOT email me again or I will report you as a spammer.
Thoughts are things. Make every thought count."

~~~~~~~~~~
How sad.

Late yesterday, the 17-year-old girl posted this on Kimkins:

"hey! I want to join this group.. I am kind of disappointed because so far, no one has responded to any of my posts on this site.
I currently weight 182.5 pounds... I want to be about 135-140.
I have had 3 cheat free days so far."

Having not heard back from Dee/DEEDLYNN/DEEDLYNN22, I sent her another e-mail this morning:

"Medusa to DeAnna show details 8:28 AM (7 hours ago)

Good morning, Dee :^) Were you able to get in touch with XXX ? "

As of 3:37 today, I have heard nothing back from Dee/DEEDLYNN/DEEDLYNN22. I guess she is too busy reading Dr. Atkins New Diet Revolution, posting on LCF, and PMing Heidi.

Shame on you Heidi, Dee, and Patti. Your lack of concern for this young girl is despicable.


Head over to Medusa's blog to follow the coments from some more heartless people.

1 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thanks for ASSUMING what my motives were or weren't. You are very concerned with ED, as am I, since I am treating for one right now. But you are so self-absorbed in your "fights" that you forget that other's might have "fights" of their own. Go save the world, while I try to save my little piece of it.

DEEDLYNN